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Party Tips: Play and Negotiation

General Information

Etiquette

1. Crimson Moon uses color-coded stickers on the name tags.

Blue Smiley Sticker=Top, Yellow Smiley Sticker=Switch, Red Smiley Sticker=Bottom, Green Smiley Sticker=not interested in play

2. You must wear your name tag at all times when attending events in the main rooms or party suites.

3. Access to the Littles' Room and events is limited to those wearing a Littles Access Pass (LAP).
1. HYGIENE!!!! Shower, wear clean clothes, groom yourself.

2. Be friendly, don’t be rude or aggressive.

3. Follow the club rules and these guidelines.

4. Have fun!!!! Make friends!!

How to Meet New People

DO:
DON’T:
1. First and foremost, be friendly! Some of us are shy, introverted and/or socially awkward, but that’s ok! Talk to people and take some time to get to know them a little. Trust us, the best way to get to play and to find your people, is to take some time to meet and get to know folks a little first.

2. Ask questions like:
 a) Is this your first party?
 b) How long have you been in the scene?

3. Share what your party feels like so far.

1. Ask for details about their vanilla life or if the name they give is real. If you’re talking to a model: still don't ask for their real name!!!

2. Immediately ask: Do you want to play? (This can be off-putting. Remember, there are three days to meet, mingle and play).

3. Presume that talking to someone means you will play. Remember, half the fun is expanding your social network and finding like-minded people!!

4. Hover around private conversations or follow people throughout the party.

5. Be rude.

How To Ask For Play

How to Say No to Play

First, is the person wearing a white badge? If so, that means they are not interested in play. DON’T EVEN ASK.

1. There are many ways to pose the question, but you might say something like:
 a) Would you like to play at some point this party?
 
2. If you get a “maybe,” “maybe later,” or a “yes but…,” you can follow up with, "All right then, if you decide you want to play, why don’t you come find me?"

If someone tells you “maybe later” DO NOT follow them around the party asking them to play. The ball is now in their court and they will approach you if they feel comfortable.

3. If the person says no: accept their choice graciously. DO NOT continue asking them to play if they have told you no and DO NOT ask them why they have said no.

4. If you see this person playing with other people later, regardless of the reason they gave you for saying no and regardless of how they said no, even if it was a “maybe later,” DO NOT approach them and accost them for playing with others and not you. You will not make friends or get to play with such behavior.


1. DON’T SAY: “MAYBE LATER.” This can and does cause confusion.

2. Instead say: "No thank you"

3. If you are pressed for a reason you do not have to tell them. Instead, you can say: “my dance card is full.”  

4. If you want to get to know someone better first, tell them! 

5. If you’re tired, busy or just not in the mood right now, but might want to play later, say so!

Follow up with: “I’ll find you if/when I want to play”

Negotiating a Scene

1. Every time you play with someone you MUST negotiate with them and establish limits, safewords, goals for the scene and address concerns for all parties involved.

For example, just because you have seen someone play hard, does NOT mean they want to play hard with you. If you have played with someone before, you should STILL negotiate before the scene.

2. Standard safewords: YELLOW=slow down, RED=stop. If someone says red, stop the scene immediately.

3. Before you play ask questions like:
 a) Do you have any health issues I need to know about?
 b) What kind of scenes do you like?
 c) What kind of scene do you want right now?
 d) Do you want a public or private scene?
 e) What is your tolerance level?
 f) Do you play with implements? Do you want to play with implements in this scene?
 g) Are yellow and red your safewords?
 h) Are there any hard limits I should know about?
 i) What position would you like to play in?
 j) Can pants/underwear come down or do they stay on/up?  

4. While you are playing, if you are the top it is your responsibility to check in with your bottom as the scene goes on and make sure things are ok. If you are the bottom, it is your responsibility to speak up and communicate. Use those safewords if you need them!

5. Do not remove items of clothing without asking permission.

6. Do not massage or rub without asking permission.

7. If something is expressed to be off limits, respect that.

8. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU GO PAST PRE-NEGOTIATED LIMITS EVEN IF THE BOTTOM CHANGES THEIR MIND MID-SCENE. If you’d like to explore those limits in a separate scene, the time to discuss and decide on that is after the scene ends. Endorphins and headspace can make consent tricky in the moment, which is why we stick to what was pre-negotiated.

9. Failure to adhere to negotiation rules is grounds for IMMEDIATE expulsion from the party.


If A Problem Arises

1. If you have concerns about safety, well-being or a party related issue, come see one of the organizers immediately. If you don’t see a party organizer, go to a security person.

2. In the event an attendee is engaging in concerning behavior, such as stalking, refusing to take no for an answer, hovering, or making inappropriate comments, including but not limited to: comments targeting individuals on the basis of race, color, nationality, sexual orientation, gender identity, or creed, find an organizer or security person immediately. Your safety and well-being is paramount to us.